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What Is a Friend? -- Writer's Poke #152

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Dilbert cartoonist Scott Adams is also a writer, and he is the most famous person that I know of who keeps a regularly-updated blog. He has even published his blog entries in the form of a book, lovingly titled: Stick to Drawing Comics, Monkey Brain!

Lucky for us, he doesn't just stick to comics. The man has a brain, and I like the cut of his jib, if you'll excuse me for using that expression. In a recent blog post, he gave his definition of a friend.

According to Adams' definition, to qualify as a friend, two conditions must be met:

1. You must have told that person a secret.

2. That person must have accepted a favor from you.

Personally, I thought Adams' conditions made quite a bit of sense; and although I had never really thought of friendship in those terms, it certainly seems to pass the smell test.

Provide your own definition for the term "friend." Using Adams' definition explore how many "friends" you have. Does what you discover surprise you? Do the results change when you use your own definition? Explore.

"To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world." -- Brandi Snyder


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